# Don't carry rocks

Things feel overwhelming and burdensome.

### Problem

* You or other people around you whose opinions matter to you, berate you and put you down.
* You doubt your capabilities.
* You remember your past mistakes and you feel overwhelming embarrassment or feel asamed.

### Recommendation

<figure><img src="https://43313209-files.gitbook.io/~/files/v0/b/gitbook-x-prod.appspot.com/o/spaces%2FCnyFLMsXi5AQy7tqzpvw%2Fuploads%2Fkz2mf6tSzjCT8riky3Y1%2Fimage.png?alt=media&#x26;token=f6bbeb92-2fb0-4bc5-b925-ac1aacb177fb" alt=""><figcaption><p>Accept the truth. Don't let your fear or ego get in the way of grounding yourself and making progress.</p></figcaption></figure>

* **Accept the truth** - If you did make a mistake, face it and own up to it. Acknowledge the truth that you did something wrong.

<figure><img src="https://43313209-files.gitbook.io/~/files/v0/b/gitbook-x-prod.appspot.com/o/spaces%2FCnyFLMsXi5AQy7tqzpvw%2Fuploads%2FVvpPMjidgN1NrAB1FTbs%2Fimage.png?alt=media&#x26;token=943cd61b-5375-4c75-84a0-6d3ed0c0f5b9" alt=""><figcaption><p>Learn to forgive yourself, and use whatever mistakes you've made as a lesson.</p></figcaption></figure>

* **Forgive yourself** - If you did make a mistake, acknowledge it and learn from it. Understand exactly why you made the mistake, and make commitments to not make the same mistake.

<figure><img src="https://43313209-files.gitbook.io/~/files/v0/b/gitbook-x-prod.appspot.com/o/spaces%2FCnyFLMsXi5AQy7tqzpvw%2Fuploads%2Fp4BSaRP5p1f8y6PK9jeM%2Fimage.png?alt=media&#x26;token=25fd4c59-e501-43f6-8be2-0b7e149dc426" alt=""><figcaption><p>Learn to command your focus not on the errors of the past and the risks of the future. Focus your attention!</p></figcaption></figure>

* **Don't waste energy; focus your attention** - Focus your energy and efforts into doing better next time. Don't waste energy on bringing yourself down.

<figure><img src="https://43313209-files.gitbook.io/~/files/v0/b/gitbook-x-prod.appspot.com/o/spaces%2FCnyFLMsXi5AQy7tqzpvw%2Fuploads%2F6ttLgbiKqB1cZJXSlz8N%2Fimage.png?alt=media&#x26;token=c01182f0-40ef-4817-8d8f-0509b8d88047" alt=""><figcaption><p>The journey is long. Take only what you need.</p></figcaption></figure>

* **Conserve your energy.** The journey is far, and you have much to accomplish. Don't waste your time and energy carrying unneeded baggage that will weigh you down.

### Effective use

* **TBD**

### Misuse

* **TBD**

### References

* [**The mountain (my personal blog)**](https://sapalo.dev/2020/01/28/the-mountain/) - A blog post on how to overcome great challenges and to sustainably accomplish difficult things.